Here's something that can help you get started with:

[gist]
<?php
require_once(JPATH_ROOT . '/administrator/components/com_easysocial/includes/easysocial.php');

$conversation = ES::conversation();
$data = array(
'message' => 'hello world',
'uid' => $targetUserId
);

$conversation->bind($data);
$conversation->save();
[/gist]

You can look at the bind method in /administrator/components/com_easysocial/includes/conversation/conversation.php if you want something fancy

This was working before - now it is not Im using version 2.1.6

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