Hi Katie,
I am sorry for the late reply.
I am sorry for the confusion. Regarding the below:
Basically what I want is; you know how, in the frontend, you can set your own profile settings to "Only Me" for "Post Story"
There is an issue with the profile privacy where user default privacy is not 'following' from the profile in version 1.0.8. Anyway we've already fixed this issue in version 1.0.9. If you are not using version 1.0.9, then I advise you to upgrade your EasySocial to latest version 1.0.9.
With this latest version of EasySocial, when you set the privacy 'post story' to only me, new users that signed up under this profile will automatically assigned with the same privacy. As for existing users, you will have the users to update their profile privacy manually
Hope this help and have a nice day